Lately I’ve had multiple friends approach me about helping them adopt dogs. Hallelujah! When this happens it feels better than if my birthday landed on Christmas and I won the lottery (okay, maybe not that part) all at the same time. I’m making a difference. People are listening. I am on cloud nine!
And then I see friends that to buy. I did a little Facebook ranting about those people this morning, and considering I hadn’t even had my coffee yet, I think I did a decent job since it launched a huge discussion and led to TWO friends messaging me to learn more about adopting: It’s such a sad and defeating feeling to see friends wanting to “buy” puppies. If I can’t even change my own friends’ minds, how will I ever change anyones? There are rescues for literally every.single.breed.imaginable! Pure economics tells us that purchasing from a breeder is a poor decision. By spending your money with a breeder you spending a good 5-10 times what you would spend to adopt the puppy (seriously, that much), and worse, creating “demand” which therefore encourages the breeder to continue creating a supply (breeding the dog.) What those that “buy” don’t consider is the fact that the puppies that aren’t sold, are then dumped at a shelter or handed over to a rescue (the breeder certainly doesn’t want to continue to spend money on the dog as an unsold puppy becomes useless to them after it hits about 10 weeks old.) Now, a shelter must spend tax dollars to care for the dog. Tax dollars that could instead be spent on things like education, new roads, etc. And don’t even get me started on the conditions that most of these dogs live in. It’s really easy to take a cute picture where mom and babies look adorable and well cared for, and sometimes that really is the case, but that is an exception, not the rule. I beg everyone, especially with Christmas right around the corner, PLEASE consider ADOPTING a puppy rather than supporting this practice. Google search “(breed of interest) + rescue + (city you live in)”. There may not be a rescue in the exact city you are in, but I promise you, they can arrange transport to get the dog to you. Now you all don’t have the excuse that “you didn’t know” and if you buy, you’re really just an ass 🙂
But almost worse than the friends that want to buy, are my “askhole” friends. These are the friends that tell me they want to adopt, get me all excited, I spend hours looking for the perfect dog for them and answering all of their questions, and after all that, they end up buying anyways. They “ask” but don’t really listen. They are askholes. It’s happened a couple of times now, and it’s confusing. Why do they ask for help if they don’t intend to actually follow through with it? Is it to make themselves feel “like they tried”? Or did I say something wrong? Whatever the reason, it’s frustrating. I definitely make every effort to be kind and not pushy when talking about all the great points of adopting (I totally believe in the old adage that you catch more bees with honey than vinegar) but yet I have failed.
Do any of you have experience with askholes? Do you take it personally when people ask for your opinion or help then do the opposite? Aside from killin’ ’em with kindness, how else to you try to make sure people listen to you about a topic you are passionate about? (And if you’re one of those people that I’ve been talking to lately about adopting, this is not directed at you, I’m loving helping you! This is about those that have already purchased a dog.)
Remember, adorable Daisie, featured throughout this post, is available for adoption! Email me at morganrivera518(at)gmail(dot)com for more information about her.