Everyone knows I love dogs. Everyone also knows I love pit bulls. And I thought everyone knew I was involved in rescuing dogs. Apparently I thought wrong though. I recently got an email from someone asking me to give them the name of “a reputable pit bull breeder”. Whoa there buddy. YOU want ME to help you find a breeder? That’s like asking Superman to help you locate some Kryptonite. Rude.
I took me a few days of milling it over to decide how to respond. My initial reaction was to send him a nasty email about how rude it is to ask someone that rescues dogs to help you buy one. Clearer heads prevailed and I decided to try and work a few different angles. I typed out what I hoped was a well thought out, logical explanation of what typical “breeders” are like, the expenses of adopting vs. buying, and of course, I did my best to appeal to his sense of humanity by discussing the joys of saving a life and preventing further suffering. I offered to answer any questions he might have about adopting and I told him that I would be thrilled to help him find the perfect puppy—as long as he was adopting it.
I just received the response and it is sadly what I was expecting; he is not interested in adopting and simply looking to buy from a “reputable” breeder. He was rude and clearly didn’t take a word I said into consideration. Actually he didn’t even acknowledge anything I said really. Sigh.
The incident has left me wondering if there is a “right” way to deal with these situations? Was there something I should have said different? Maybe used a different tone? Did I forget a key point I should have mentioned? Or do these people that want to buy from breeders just not care about anything other than the one dog that they are buying? They don’t care that others suffer and die? They don’t care how the mothers and fathers are treated? It doesn’t affect them so they just don’t care? I can’t wrap my head around it. Maybe there isn’t a way to reason with them.
Surely I am not the only person that has encountered this. So I’m curious, how do you deal with people that don’t believe in adopting? Do you have a magical line or story you tell? Do you show them pictures from puppy mills? What do you do?