If you follow my blog you may remember reading my post The Butterfly Effect that I talked about personal responsibility in. My rant for today is on a topic that I feel is very closely related: commitment.
This week alone Last Hope Rescue will be getting multiple dogs returned. These are dogs that we thought we had adopted out into wonderful forever homes. The dogs have been in the homes anywhere from a few weeks to over a year. Each person has a different reason for returning the dog. Each dog will now be back in foster care, taking up a spot that another dog, who is sitting and waiting to die in a shelter, could actually be in. Each dog is now confused and let down all over again.
I was raised by strict parents. Don’t get me wrong, they are great but they definitely had certain values that they felt very strongly about. A big one was commitment. I can remember literally crying while begging my mom to let me skip swim team practice and her response was always, “No, you made a commitment to the team, you have to go.” And off I would go to uphold my commitment.
Why is it so acceptable to fail our commitments these days? I feel like as a society, we feel entitled, and that sense of entitlement leads us to believe that we should never have to endure an uncomfortable situation. We don’t deserve that. We are entitled to our comforts. And boom, it’s someone else’s problem. Instead of sticking with our commitment, the moment the going gets tough, we decide it is someone else’s problem.
Marriages dissolve after a year. Friends break their plans if something better comes up. Workers quit their jobs rather than do a task they don’t like. Adopters decide they don’t want their dogs anymore. When did any of this become acceptable?
Adopting a dog should be a forever commitment. There may be some bumps along the road. Things might not always go exactly as envisioned. You might get frustrated. But all of this is just part of upholding your commitment. Adopting a dog means you are committed to it for life, not for as long as it is convenient and easy for you.
I find it equally sad and frustrating that we are getting these dogs returned. I am sad for the dogs because once again, their world is getting turned upside down, and now they will have to learn to trust a new person all over again. Undoubtedly this will only get harder and harder for the dog. I am frustrated because our foster homes are being taken up by dogs that should be living out the rest of their days with the family that adopted them. And because that foster home is now full again, other dogs are dying that we could be saving.
I suppose I will probably offend some people with this post, but to be honest, I’m guessing those that I offend are probably guilty of failing some commitment that they have made. I don’t aim to offend though; my hope is that maybe, just maybe, even one person will take their commitments a little more seriously after reading this and I will help save another life. Once again, a girl can dream, right?
All dogs (and cat) pictured in this post are available for adoption. Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you see one that tugs at your heart strings!